It is possible to stop pretending you are doing well and actually feel well. Together we can cut through the complexity of your problems. From that struggle we can discover the opportunity for something more.
What actually is counseling?
Basically counseling is a special sort of conversation that takes place over several weekly sessions. During those sessions the counselor and the client discuss the problems and patterns the client is struggling with. The goal is to help the client see things in new ways so that they can find relief from those problems. Every counselor is different and will focus on different parts of a client's problem in different ways depending on training and orientation. It is important to find a counselor that connects well with the problems you are facing, and also someone you would feel comfortable being in a deep ongoing conversation with week after week.
What problems do you work with?
My specialty is working with adults who think and feel too much or too little, so that life has become unbalanced. Here are some specific examples of what that looks like:
- Experiencing big overwhelming emotions that we typically label as depression, anxiety, sadness, grief, fear, etc.
- Experiencing a lack of emotion, typically described as a numbness, a sense of distraction, or a disconnect ("I have forgotten how to cry").
- Experiencing overwhelming thoughts, especially those nagging negative stories we tell ourselves about how bad we are, how bad we feel, and how bad life is (and how that badness will never change).
- Having trouble staying present, usually described as being distracted, disconnected, disinterested, trouble focusing, being "ADHD," or simply being anxious so there is trouble settling down.
What are your counseling methods?
- We will work in the NOW more than in the PAST. Even though I will ask you questions about your past, your family, and your childhood my goal is not to spend endless amount of time looking at your past. Instead I spend the most time focusing on your most recent experiences.
- We will look for insight wherever we can find it. Part of the work I do is asking questions that other people don't ask, or asking those questions in new ways. Together we will challenge some of your assumptions, question some of your habits and patterns, and try to figure out how it all works.
- When insight isn't enough, we will focus on living with our difficulties in peace. It is hard to hear, but the truth is that some problems cannot be solved. They can only be lived with. If you are grieving a loss there is no amount of insight that will give you back what you have lost. When this happens we will explore ways to live with what cannot be changed.
- Achieving a more balanced perspective is key. Some people are always thinking and planning while some people tend to be much more focused on emotions. Some people are all about getting things working and getting things done while some people are more interested in life experiences and different states of being. The best place to live is somewhere in the middle of all these things. Getting you there is my ultimate goal.
Are you an adult (twenty-one or older)?
Are you ready to make a change?
Let's get started.
Other Counseling Questions
Do you accept health insurance or Medicaid?
Not at this time. Some health insurance companies allow you to see healthcare providers out-of-network. Contact your insurance company for more information.
Do you offer reduced rates or sliding scale fees?
I offer a reduced rate (of $30/session) for current students of Asbury Theological Seminary. A referral is welcomed but not required for this reduced rate. Counseling can only be done in person at my Lexington office. Part-time students are also welcome.
There are a set number of reduced-rate student slots. If you are interested, get in touch.
Do you do distance counseling, phone counseling, or counseling over the internet?
Do I Need to come every week?
While there is always some flexibility in scheduling, it is generally expected that clients will come in on a weekly basis. This helps to facilitate the care being given and prevents backtracking. If this is a problem for you please let me know and we can discuss your specific situation.
When do you typically schedule clients?
There has been some confusion about when my office is open. I typically schedule clients on Mondays, Wednesdays, Thursdays, Fridays, and Sundays. Appointment slots vary from 9:00AM to 5:00PM. Later appointments are available on a case-by-case basis (and not for those taking advantage of my special rates for Asbury Theological Seminary students).
What is your cancelation policy?
My policy is similar to most doctor offices. I require 24 hours of notice if you will not be able to attend an appointment. If you cancel with less than 24 hours until your appointment you will be billed for the full session fee. (As soon as you think you might not be able to attend a session with me give me a call so that we can work together and figure out a way to keep you from paying for missed sessions.)
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